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The Kollel Konundrum

12/12/2009

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Let me begin this post with some very heartfelt, very dramatic words: Our Kollel years were the best ones of my life. (For the uninitiated, Kollel is a yeshivah where married men study for varying amounts of time; they study Torah and Talmud and may work to earn rabbinic ordination.) My husband and I embraced a kollel lifestyle right after our wedding and it was pure, absolute bliss. He learned all day; I worked to support us and felt privileged to do so. I am not being corny or kitschy; I really, wholly, and completely loved every minute of his full-time Torah learning. I feel like Kollel learning is such a noble, incredible pursuit and that it sustains the entire universe. Now, for those of you who may be wondering if there is some foreshadowing or preface going on here, you are highly astute.

Recently, a comment was made to me thusly: "Why are your serial stories bashing Kollel?" My head jerked up; my heart leapt into my throat. I was taken aback, really, especially in light of the above paragraph. When I finally gathered my wits to attempt to respond to the accusation, I first pointed out that Green Fences was definitely nowhere within the category of "kollel bashing". If anything, Green Fences showed the beauty and importance of kollel, which one Batya Sternheim attempted to deny. In Shattered Glass, my current serialized story, the protagonist, Betzalel Myers, does learn in Kollel, and perhaps that is what prompted the specious comment about my "kollel-bashing". Firstly, to extrapolate from one fictional story which centers on a man who happens to be learning in Kollel, the assumption that the author is a wanton, shameless "kollel-basher" seems not only ridiculous, but downright rude. Secondly, and this is much more interesting, I realized that as a writer, I am faced with a curious Kollel konundrum.

You see, the yeshivah/chareidi world today has a grey area when it comes to Kollel learning vs. working. This is the feisty fodder for many a discussion and even a serial story (think Black and White by Dov Haller and, er, Green Fences, by Riva Pomerantz :-)). While we all agree that learning Torah in Kollel is a most worthy pursuit, we also must acknowledge that not everyone is capable of this occupation and also, that we need mechanchim (teachers), rabbonim (rabbis), and countless other Torah Jews to fill other roles and serve as other professionals within our communities. My husband Joel, for example, is a school psychologist and cognitive-behavioral therapist. In his capacity, he helps countless people in our community who are struggling with very difficult, real issues. Yes, he cherishes his Kollel days, but now he is performing his avodas Hashem (service of G-d) in this venue.

I have often commented on the enormous, inexplicable power of fiction--to effect change, to provoke thought, and to spark discussion. More so than articles, workshops, and lectures, fiction has this uncanny ability to get through to people, most likely because it is non-threatening, interesting, and entertaining. I use fiction as a tool, a vehicle for an important message (in case you're wondering if there's any mind control going on in my work :-)). When it comes to writing serialized stories in frum magazines such as Mishpacha, the writer, when creating a plot, comes smack up against a huge, steel door. That door is the Kollel Konundrum. Essentially, since fiction is so powerful, and since our community is so highly attuned to nuance, and since the subject of Kollel vs. Working is so alive and conflicted, a writer who chooses a plot where the protagonist is working might be misconstrued as espousing working as a preferred occupation, which would be a slight against Kollel, which would be definitely not okay. Whew, long sentence. Therefore, choosing a character who is learning in Kollel, aside from immediately creating reader rapport because most of our readers identify strongly with a Kollel lifestyle (at least at one point in their lives), is also an endorsement of Kollel. Does that mean that by creating a character who is in Kollel and who is struggling, I am attempting to malign Kollel or suggest, chas v'shalom, that Betzalel's story is pretty typical or indicative of widespread problems within the Kollel community? Of course not! Betzalel's issues ARE, unfortunately, widespread within our community at-large, but certainly not specifically a Kollel problem. Betzalel could have just as easily been an accountant with a night chavrusah (Torah study partner) and the rest of Shattered Glass could have stayed exactly the same. But given the sensitivity of the Kollel vs. working issue, I opted to steer clear of it. Apparently, however, it's difficult to side-step.

What are your thoughts?
 


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aguy
12/13/2009 19:32

1) My my my. A bit defensive. How does a questions of "Why are your serial stories bashing Kollel?" lead you to a response of " Firstly, to extrapolate from one fictional story which centers on a man who happens to be learning in Kollel, the assumption that the author is a wanton, shameless "kollel-basher" seems not only ridiculous, but downright rude" ??? Am I missing something here?

Perhaps it was an innocent question about a fictional story that the reader understood as anti-Kollel? Why does yuur respone include an assumption that YOU are a kollel basher?

2) Perhaps you are right, and it is overblown. This is afterall just one story. But the green fences story was about the poor hashkafa of a Kollel wife. And as you must know from when your husband was in Kollel, a wifes attitude is just as relevent as the husbands learning.

3) There are other stories that you write. Not just serial stories. Perhaps ideas and subliminal messages in those stories help shape a readers view of your agenda.

4) There have been other stories in the past as well, most notably the Kollel guy with the gambling problem, which also have a negative take on Kollel guys.

5) You write in a magazine which seems to have an anti-Kollel agenda. Look no further han Rabbi Rosenblums recnet column, which like it or not, leads people to believe he wants to steer the masses away from Kollel. Not that he is against Kollel, but that it seems that he is not all out in favor of the en masse approach to the Kollel lifestyle.

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Riva link
12/13/2009 22:56

aguy--Thanks for your comments. I will try to address them completely.

1) I will broaden the "kollel-bashing" allegation here to indicate more than just one reader. Indeed, with Shattered Glass I have gotten other negative feedback in regards to my purported attack on Kollel life, although most of the disgruntled readers did not object to the Kollel aspect; they were concerned about their children reading a story of this nature. That's for another blog post. Therefore, yes, I am writing a pretty comprehensive post about not just one isolated incident, but something a bit larger that I felt needed to be addressed. You use the word "defensive" in a way that implies something derogatory. Since when is defensive a bad word? The best offense is a good defense!

2. You are absolutely correct about the role of the kollel wife in her husband's commitment to learning. Not a single question about that. I'm not sure what point you are making here. If I utilize a "bad" character to get across an important message, does that mean my sentiments lie with my work-in-progress character rather than with the ultimate goal of the important message I am trying to portray?

3. I do write other stories. Lots of stories. It's what I do for a living and what I do for my own avodas Hashem. Not sure what you are calling my agenda--yes, I have a number of agendas. Some of my pet ones are: ahavas Yisrael, personal growth, living "real" with thought and cheshbon, among others. Kollel bashing or any derogatory approach to Torah learning of any kind has never been and will never be an agenda of mine.

4. I know that Hearts of Gold was met with an uproar. To be honest, I wasn't affiliated with Mishpacha at that time and I was never into it. I would leave it to the author of that story to explain her slant or agenda; that is not for me to comment on.

5. I write in a magazine that has an agenda--we all do--you, me, everyone out there. I don't believe Mishpacha is anti-Kollel and I would be hard-pressed to find evidence to that claim. Again, it would be interesting to hear from the magazine itself whether they do, indeed, have an anti-Kollel approach, but I think it all boils down to the conundrum I outlined in the second half of my blogpost. Rabbi Rosenblum is free to comment on his own views in a different forum. I think there is a difference between being anti-Kollel and realizing that Kollel--or longterm Kollel--is not for everyone and never has been, historically speaking.

Thank you for writing.

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ZB
12/22/2009 08:19

I'm equally baffled as you are about the guy that felt like your stories bash kollel. I can't think of anything you've written that would lead to that assumption.

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S
02/09/2010 19:09

I think this is the source of the problem:
In recent years, since so many young men are learning in kollel, authors are more inclined to make their characters kollel men. However, every story needs conflict, and so all of these kollel families will inevitably be struggling with one issue or another. The upside is that readers will be able to identify with the characters - who lead a similar lifestyle - but the downside is that some of them will take the characters' issues as a veiled attack on the kollel lifestyle. Hmmm. A kollel konundrum indeed!

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Eliyahoo WilliamDwek
05/17/2010 11:45

When ‘dayanim’, ‘rabbis’ and false ‘mekubalim’ use the Torah for their own power and commercial profit, this behaviour is abhorrent.

No other ‘rabbi’ will ever act against another ‘rabbi’ - even when he knows his colleague is clearly desecrating the Torah. Each rabbi is only worried about losing his own position.

Therefore, the ‘rabbi’, ‘dayyan’ or false ‘mekubal’ (‘kabbalist’) will never effect justice. And he will never truly stand for the Torah or the Honour of Hashem. His pocket will always prevail.

The Torah must never be used for commercial gain and profit. Amm israel can only be lead by those who have the necessary love and respect of Hashem and the Torah.

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