My dear husband was recently the victim of an acute outbreak of FCBV when an acquaintance made a comment to him that could only be classified as "grotesquely insensitive". Let's just say it was WAY too insensitive to even publish on this here blog. I, too, have been afflicted by the FCBV germ (Epidemiology: the disease is highly contagious and spreads easily between spouses) on various and sundry occasions. Perhaps you, gentle reader, have also experienced its baffling sting. Worse yet, perhaps you (er, and even me!) have smitten others around you with FCBV venom!
"What was he THINKING?!" I asked no one in particular, mulling over the comment made to my husband, greatly chagrined.
And without knowing it, my question was highly profound (because I am often profound without actually knowing it. Isn't that profound? :-)). Because the simple fact is that, by its very nature, and boldly embodied in its high-faluten name, FCBV is characterized by...not thinking! The thoughtless words that come out of our mouths can sometimes be flabbergasting!
Unfortunately, as mentioned, there is no way of getting immunized against giving or receiving FCBV and the disease IS pretty deadly. The only way to fight it is to employ the sage advice of our Sages (disclaimer: I'm distilling and lumping together a few--by no means ALL--of these teachings here) and pray for the best. Here's what I'm reflecting on today:
1. Cherish silence! There's a reason we say silence is golden. Simply put, this translates into "keep quiet and mind your own business!" Or, as my mother taught me, if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all!
2. Pause for a split-second before making that comment. Would you want someone saying that to YOU? Will it come out the way you intended, or is there ample leg-room for misconstruing it?
3. 'Fess up! If FCBV got the better of you, you're not the only one infected out there. But by all means, clean up your act! A quick, "I'm sorry--that was really thoughtless and insensitive of me! I really apologize!" has been found to be highly curative (and not just in lab rats!).
Whew! Now I feel better! Have you ever been exposed to FCBV? What are your, er, thoughts on it?